Dumper or Dumpee

Either way, it’s no fun.  As the dumper, you have to do it.  Unless you’re heartless, you have to know your going to be crushing someone.  And I’m talking about intense or serious relationships.  The casual ones.  They don’t really count.

And if your the dumpee, oh lawdy.  That’s the worst.  More often then not you’re unsuspecting and so not ready for it.  And when it happens, it’s like, WhYYYYYYYYY!  Please take me back.  I can change.

We’ve all said something of that at some point in our life.  It sucks.

Which would you prefer to be?  The Dumper or the Dumpee?

But before we get to that answer, let’s delve into the psyche of the dumper.

And to do so, I have to ask a question:

How would you dump your boyfriend/girlfriend?

  1. Take them to dinner and do it in a public place
  2. Meet with them and have a private conversation
  3. Send an email or text or snapchat or FB message
  4. Get so mean you force a reversal and they dump you
  5. Let the relationship fizzle
  6. Have an affair, thus making it easier for you to leave them and not be alone.  You asshole!

Here’s a little something for you to enjoy….the lighter side to break ups.

Now that you’ve gotten yourself out the crapspace you were in before.  Let’s get to the root of why I chose to write this.

If you’re holding on to an old relationship.  If you’re in something you know isn’t right.  If your still mad an ex.  STOP!  Right now!

Here’s why, in story form.  I told you about my heartbreaks.  They sucked.  But guess what.  Each one of those supposed failures led me to my current situation.  Which is double AWESOME!  Obviously, the heart does what it does and there’s hurt, pain, sadness, tears, etc. etc. etc. blah blah blah.  And I wasn’t impervious to it either.  Yet when I look back, I see that I learned something from each relationship and it made me into the person I am today.  Who, I have to admit, is pretty rad.

Okay, still haven’t gotten to the point.  Here it is.  Be grateful those relationships didn’t work.  If you were dumped, why would you want to be with someone who doesn’t think you are the most incredible person in the world.  Exactly.  What you should be doing is calling them up right now and thanking them.  Because you’ve either found that someone special or you’re going to.  And guess what, it might not be the next one, two or three after this hurt.  And thank them too.  Because thank the lords that you don’t end up with them either.

Is this starting to make some sense to you?  You’ve been looking at it all wrong.  Seriously!  If it had continued, you’d be miserable.  They’d be miserable.  It’d be a miserable situation that you’d have forced to continue.  Everyone is where they are when they are there.

No go out there and start thank those dumpers and dumpees!  It’s your job.